Monday, August 18, 2014

John Ketcham inducted posthumously into the Hall of Fame

The late John Ketcham was inducted—tears flowing and hearts full of remembrance of this generous beautiful guy who died far, far too early—into the FV Hall of Fame on Saturday, along with his late father Frank. Earlier that morning, the Ketcham family, led by Jody Davies Ketcham, buried the ashes of John's and Jody's daughter Casey. I attended that service/meeting and then the burial, and I can hardly put words to how deep and moving it all was. We gathered in the Ketcham Chapel to remember Casey and then walked over onto Memorial Island to lay the ashes, sing a simple song, and then walk slowly over to the other side of the Biscuit Creek bridge where soon it was time to remember Casey's father John. Meantime, John's son Steve was on hand and his wife Ali and their new son John Lucas, whom we couldn't help but call John. And, oh my, does John look like Johnny Ketcham, his grandfather, when he was a baby. Readers of this blog can simply compare the new John Ketcham to the photo of Johnny with Frank and Mike at Wawayanda in 1948. Amazing likeness. Below you see a photo of John's dearest Wawayanda friend, Bev Gross Sutton, to whom little John took as if they were continuing the friendship Bev and John commenced in the very early days of Wawayanda at Frost Valley. Bev's letter to Casey, after her father's death, is quoted in the profile we wrote about John on the occasion of his induction. Steve gave the intruction speech, and Jody accepted the plaque on behalf of her late husband.

Click here to see and read a copy of the profile as it appeared in the program.

Photo above: We gather at Memorial Island in Reflection Pond to bury Casey's ashes.



John Ketcham

Bev Gross (now Bev Gross Sutton, legendary Girls’ Camp personage in her own right) met Johnny Ketcham at Wawayanda when they were teenagers. They grew up there and worked as waterfront counselors together for several summers, after which they remained close friends for a lifetime. Soon after John’s death—cancer took him far, far too young—Bev decided to describe her experiences with and feelings about John in a long letter to Casey, John and Jody Davies Ketcham’s daughter. “What I remember most vividly about working on the waterfront with your dad,” Bev told Casey,

was that Lake Cole in June felt like swimming in glacial waters. It took your breath away; it paralyzed your limbs. Every counselor struggled to seduce the children to swim, but every camper balked at every suggestion....every camper except, of course, the campers in Johnny's group. He and his kids would be in the water, splashing happily and practicing their strokes. When his children emerged from their lessons, their toes and fingers were purple, their teeth were chattering and they were covered with goose bumps the size of jelly beans. Yet a radiant smile always framed their blue lips. John knew how to inspire people to reach beyond their grasp.

Everyone who encountered John Ketcham felt this particular kind of inspiration—the kind that shows you how to live rather than tells you; the kind that creates confidence with a smile and modest show of physical and emotional strength; the kind that made everyone around him “reach beyond their grasp.” Today we honor John Ketcham with induction into the Frost Valley Hall of Fame—and with sorrow we must do it posthumously—in the realization that no one who has graced this Valley ever better embodied the values of caring, respect, and responsibility together in one soul. He was unfailingly kind to everyone; he loved Wawayanda and Frost Valley and did everything he could, always, to make it a better place for kids; he accepted far more than his share of commitments and complex burdens and never diminished his capacity for love in doing so.

Bev Gross Sutton holds John Ketcham's grandson.
He’d been a baby when first being taken to Wawayanda in 1948. He attended camp at the temporary Wawayanda site at Stevens Institute in the 1950s, and by 15, now at Frost Valley, he was a young CIT (normally 16). Then, at 16, a very young counselor, his superstar capacities as leader of children and colleagues became fully apparent, and he was appointed to be a Village Chief—of Hemlock (his campers thus being just two years younger than he): the youngest Village Chief in the long history of our camp. Soon he was Frost Valley’s Waterfront Director, not just accepting and fulfilling responsibility for safety at an area of camp entailing special risks but going much further: John helped re-introduce YMCA-style swimming instruction and, as Bev Gross noted for Casey, managed to make it the most fun place to be in camp. He’d been a champion swimmer at Westfield High School, and then at Wesleyan University, where he won fourth place in the 100-yard backstroke as a Collegiate All-American in Division 1 of the NCAA—an astonishing feat considering that Wesleyan, a tiny college, is a Division 3 school.

John's sister Billie Ketcham Heath says a few words.
Starting in 1975 he worked with his father Frank in the accounting firm, Ketcham & Ketcham. He was writing early computer programs to aid accounting practices, and Frost Valley was a beta testing site. As he worked on this with Halbe Brown—by this point the Brown and Ketcham families were very close—he was persuaded by Halbe of the value of another seemingly crazy Frost Valley innovation: a specialty camp for kids focusing on computers. John developed the program and for at least one two-week session taught the children himself. There he re-met another family friend from their Westfield days, Jody Davies, then Frost Valley’s director of development. They became one of several Ketcham marriages that began at Frost Valley, and they were wed, at the Straus Estate, in 1986. John’s children, Bill, Steve, and Suzy, all attended camp and came of age here, in the Ketcham tradition. John and Jody’s daughters, Casey and Molly, were born in 1991; their ashes rest, with John’s, on Memorial Island at Reflection Pond. Casey loved her many visits to Frost Valley—family reunion weekends, family camp, visits for meetings and staff reunions and memorials—and John loved that Casey loved his beloved Wawayanda, home to his sense of leadership and his belief in the power of children’s imagination and hope.

John’s death was a great blow to that hope. But, as Bev wrote Casey, “Every one who knew Johnny, every one who ministered to him during his illness, every one who attended his service, has been changed for the better.  We have each been summoned, in his name, to follow his example. I hope you can find solace in knowing that you are the child of a truly great man.” If there were just one reason for Frost Valley’s Hall of Fame, it would surely be this: to remind ourselves of such powerful examples of our Frost Valley predecessors; to accept their loss as a challenge to make something better here for children and families; to take solace as friends and family and colleagues of a truly great man; to dive into the frigid water in that same hopeful spirit and “splash happily”—inspiring people always and forever to reach beyond their grasp.

Frank Ketcham is inducted into the Hall of Fame

Below is the text that was printed in the program for our annual Summer Meeting at Frost Valley, which took place, with more than 100 people in attendance, under a tent behind the Welcome Center (administration building). One of the people we inducted (posthumously, alas) into the FV Hall of Fame was Frank Ketcham. I hope readers of this blog will read the note about Frank carefully. He was a remarkable friend of Frost Valley and of course his family still remains connected in dozens of ways. If you want a nicer-looking version, just as it appeared in the program, click on this link and read the PDF.

Above at left: Mike Ketcham presented the induction with a short talk about his father. Accepting the plaque on their father's behalf are Billie Ketcham Heath and Debbie Ketcham Goodeve, two of Mike's three sisters. They all agreed a little later that the plaque should be mounted on the wall in the foyer to the Ketcham Family Chapel, and so it will be.



Frank Ketcham

When Frank Ketcham’s youngest daughter Debbie joined the family at camp in 1953, there were at that point seven Wawayanda Ketchams. Today we posthumously induct Frank into the Hall of Fame for his critical involvement in Wawayanda’s move to Frost Valley in 1958, for his forging of the Westfield Y/Wawayanda connection, for his key role as an original trustee, and for his inspiring work as a volunteer leader of his community, but it might well be that the myriad accomplishments and enduring legacy of many members of his family at Frost Valley are themselves sufficient criteria for bestowing this honor.

Certainly he would have humbly believed so—he who believed in the power of family love above everything else. All five of his own children attended Wawayanda as campers, made the transition to Frost Valley, and grew up to become staff leaders of Wawayanda and Hird, counselors, lifeguards and directors—one of them later the camp’s auditor, another its Associate Executive Director, a daughter-in-law its Director of Development. Five of his grandchildren have been Frost Valley campers and four of them came of age here and became staff members. Three of his great-grandchildren have now been campers. Two of his sons met the loves of their lives at Frost Valley, and the same happy fate befell one of his grandsons too. One of his children was married here (at Straus), and the ashes of a beloved son and those of two beloved granddaughters rest at Memorial Island in Reflection Pond. Frank Ketcham donated thousands of hours to ensure the success of Wawayanda and Frost Valley, but his greatest impact may well be the continuous, generative love his family feels for the place to which he introduced them.

That first introduction was in 1948, when the young family spent a week at Wawayanda Family Camp at the old Wawayanda in New Jersey. They became regular members of the Westfield YMCA, and from the mid-1950s through the late 1960s Frank served on the Board of Directors at Westfield, while continuing to bring the children to Wawayanda in the summers—and, starting with son Mike (who typically attended three two-week sessions), sent them to resident camp as well. In 1956 and ’57 Frank became very involved with the search for a successor location for Wawayanda, whose various recent moves in northwestern New Jersey were caused by encroaching suburban development. Frank Ketcham and Ed Tomb were leaders among those who planned the move, identified Frost Valley as a destination, collaborated with Walter Margetts to secure the purchase of 2,200 acres from the Forstmann family, and then handled the tricky finances as Wawayanda prepared for its first summer in the Catskills in 1958. Frank was on the leadership team of the Central Atlantic Area Association of the Y, an entity that helped form the first Wawayanda trusteeships, and Frank himself was tapped to serve as one of the original members of the Frost Valley Board. In 1957 he became the Board’s very first treasurer. In Wawayanda’s early years at Frost Valley, the camp’s budget was precarious, and its survival (in some years, its bare survival) owes in part to Frank’s integrity, honesty, and constant fiduciary attentions. Frank served as a Frost Valley trustee through 1965, just prior to the arrival of Halbe Brown and, with that, an era of stability and then expansion. As Frank’s son Mike recalled recently, his father “worked hard all through those tough years.” “He intuitively understood the value of camping,” Mike adds, “and he believed very strongly in Frost Valley.”

And, crucially, he did not keep that intuitive belief to himself. He wanted most of all to share such belief with his children—and theirs, and then theirs. “As a father,” Mike reflected recently, “he was devoted, very supportive, loving, always encouraging. He was very oriented to the family, and by bringing us to Wawayanda he provided an amazing opportunity for us to develop an awareness and a set of values that would help us for the rest of our lives.”

During Mike’s time as Associate Executive Director, he and Halbe Brown discussed a plan to move the administration office (now the Welcome Center) and create a chapel out of the existing building. He consulted with his father about an idea: to dedicate this new chapel in memory of Frank’s mother Laura. At the time of Frank’s death in 1990 the vision of a new chapel was still unrealized, but the range and sheer number and deep emotional attachment to Frost Valley of the extended Ketcham family was strong, so they came together, with many friends, and raised funds to build the stately, placid, vaulted-ceilinged Ketcham Chapel in the quiet woods near Reflection Pond—dedicated to the memory of Frank and to his mother. 

Sixty-six years after he first brought his family to Wawayanda, by unanimous affirmation of his successor members of the Frost Valley Board of Trustees, we honor Frank Ketcham with induction into the Hall of Fame for his generosity of spirit, his devotion to his own children but also to all children, his absolute integrity as a lay leader, his talent for helping to save and then preserve a camp at its critical moment, and his remarkable capacity for familial love.

"We were CITs together."

We all remember our "year" - the group of people with whom we grew up at FV, a "generation" you might say. "We were CITs together," we say when we meet up at camp or elsewhere. The other day I noticed in the dining hall that these five people were all "from the same year." They are now 23 years old but have known each other, some of them, for more than a decade, come "up through the ranks" together. We missed one other (Gary Kaufman, who was doing a volunteer visiting stint as a counselor in Pokey-Totem - but he was at Rest House when this shot was taken). So there were, at that moment, six of them at camp at once. Of course there are several hundred more out there, still identifying in the same way.

I myself had a wonderful leisurely breakfast yesterday in Claryville at the Blue Hill Cafe and Lodge with a dear, dear friend from my year at camp. "We were CITs together," we reminded my wife over eggs and coffee" -- but that wasn't 2008. It was 1971!


Susky daughter and her Susky friends

Kate Westerbeck Lewis's daughter (in sunglasses at left), as noted previously, is in camp this session - her first time. She's a Susky girl and, as you can sense from the photo (taken Saturday), she's already part of the special Susky sisterhood.


would you tatoo the Big Tree on your leg?

Yes, you would. If you had enough daring. Is there another more powerful symbol of our Valley than the Big Tree in Big Tree Field?




Hirdstock 2014

Photos by Dan Weir.



Sunday, August 17, 2014

superstar judges at Challenge Night


What a talented array of judges the other night! From left, Mick Brockman (wearing his prized Al's Challenge Night 2014 shirt), Carolyn Doris Hallet (see earlier entry about her visit), Nick Harley, my son Ben, and Clare Spitzer.

Dave Gold is back!

Dave Gold's son was in camp for the first week of session 4. I was leading a game of Geronimo and up from behind me comes this familiar Springfield, NJ-accented voice: the super-psychologist himself, former VC (the first ever) of PAC village. Dave Gold himself! Here he is.


croquet bros

Pac village got all genteel the other day and decided to open up a country club. Croquet was the game. Sweaters knotted around the neck was the style.


Friday, August 15, 2014

47 degrees this morning

Woke up, drove my car 1 mile down the road into camp, and then noticed my temperature gauge: 47 degrees!


Carolyn Doris

Carolyn Doris (now Carolyn Doris Hallet) has been here all week as a volunteer. (Her son is in Adventure Village.) She was a counselor in the very first Windsong village back in 1984, and then repeated the next summer as a counselor in Windsong too. (The first VC of Windsong was Westfield NJ native Carolyn Bockus. The second VC was Betsy Glick.) Anyway, Carolyn and her brother Jon were FV regulars in the 80s and then Carolyn moved to Colorado and then to the northwest. I hadn't seen her for many years, and then here she was - a judge at Challenge Night. Great! Amazing.


August rainbow

After a beautifully sunny and cool day here, somehow - crazily - the low clouds rolled in and during dinner and evening program we had a cold rain shower. At some point in there it stopped for a while, the sun came out, and this bright full rainbow appeared. I've never seen such a bright rainbow here, nor a complete one (it went from horizon to horizon). This photo doesn't do it justice, but I had to stop along the road and snap it.


Monday, August 11, 2014

Saturday, August 9, 2014

build strong

What you see as you leave the property heading out of camp toward Claryville (as you pass the Haunted House site).


what is it about Forest VCs?

There have been six Forest VCs (one present and five past) in camp this summer. Four of them gathered at Geronimo on Thursday morning to play a round of that crazy chair game with the campers and counselors of Forest Village. (Forest had had Geronimo on the schedule earlier in the session, but it was partly rained out, so they begged for another go at it - this time under blue skies and of course outdoors.)

Leighton Preston is the present Forest VC. He's standing here at left. Then, from left to right, there's: me, Jacob Gordon, and Parker Van Nostrand. Not pictured - but they were both just yards away, in their offices atop Margetts Lodge - were Dan Weir and David S.


Friday, August 8, 2014

Clara, too, for the Hall

Clara Morthland Hasbrouck will also be inducted into the FV Hall of Fame in about a week. I'll have more to say about Clara later, but meantime here is a classic photo of her: sharp, exuberant, classy. Clara has done as much as anyone associated with Frost Valley over the years for the Castle.


John Ketcham into the Hall

We will also be inducting John Ketcham into the Frost Valley Hall of Fame a week from Saturday. Sadly, a posthumous honor. Many Ketchams will be on hand.


Ira Greifer

Here is a photo taken in the early part of the summer of 1976, at an official celebration of the then-year-old dialysis unit at Frost Valley. (The program started in '75, the summer earlier, but this was, as I recall, a belated celebration/gathering/"opening.")

Halbe Brown, Eve Gottscho and Ira Greifer were the three intense geniuses who created this first-of-a-kind program, whereby kids on hemodialysis (a very restrictive treatment) could attend a camp with healthy children and be treated like everyone else. The project was miraculous.

Ira Greifer is being inducted into the Frost Valley Hall of Fame a week from tomorrow (August 16), so I will have more to say about Ira later. Meantime, this photo. Ira is the guy looking at the camera, wearing the red (red, white and blue, actually) staff shirt. Others gathered around included members of the Gottscho Kidney Foundation board, some of the campers, and some of the counselors who had dialysis kids in their cabins.


a memory of the late Fenn Putman

Today two of Fenn Putman's grand-daughters will end their two-week session at FV '14, Emily and Audrey. I had the wonderful experience about a week ago of talking with Audrey (Windsong camper) about her grandfather - and told her how he meant to me and all of us.

This morning I wrote this short remembrance of Fenn:

I have many, many memories of working together with Fenn as a fellow trustee. He combined generosity and humility more powerfully and effectively than any person I've ever met. You could feel this unusual combination of qualities not just in the context of work. You sensed it in every routine interaction. Typically on the night before a day-long Board meeting at Frost Valley, a few of us would stay overnight at the Friendship House together. Invariably, Fenn and I were the last to "hit the hay," as he would say. We'd stay up in the living room talking and swapping stories. He would characteristically defer to me ("I'm sitting here, after all, with a college professor.") and listen while I nattered away on some subject or another. But then, when I ran out of steam, he would tell a tale that seemed trivial ("What do I know? I'm just a bumpkin nobody.") but turned out to perfectly summarize our entire conversation, take the overall point to the next level, and leave me pondering the largest thoughts. I was really his student all along, and not a very good one. I will not ever forget my teacher--our mentor in the fine arts of kindness and selflessness.

Thursday, August 7, 2014

Totemite bliss

This little guy came to dinner last night with a special single-mindedness. The options were plentiful: roast turkey, broccoli, mashed potatoes, and a salad bar especially full of delicious choices - two kinds of greens, tomatoes, mushrooms, radishes, a bowl of kale, chicken salad, macaroni salad, egg salad, and there were of course slices of bread and soy butter spread.

But mashed potatoes were his thing. He filled his plate and sat staring blissfuly at it and then began the process of eating and smiling.

(His wonderful counselor Carly sat with him and urged him to try something green, or at least something a little darker brown - and eventually she did get him to eat something else, but for the moment he was in a mashed heaven and I was glad to catch the scene.)



Wednesday, August 6, 2014

mustache day - no, mustache activity

Themes in Lakota are endless. Today during second period one of the Lakota counselors ran a mustache-themed activity. I spent some time with them and still didn't know what it was all about, but they were having wild fun, and many of them, later at lunch, still wore their stick-on mustaches. I'm a mustache-and-beard guy, but I still got lots of credit for a full and somewhat bushy mustache. Here's Nanase, one of the Lakota counselors, sporting her temporarily hairy lip.

Nick is back, MAC post-graduate

Nick is spending the day with us. He and his parents live locally. Jerry Huncosky went to Grahamsville to pick him up and here he is.

Nick was a Mini-MAC camper, then a MAC camper, and then, in his final summers before "aging out," he was in the STEP program, which is intended to help high-functioning young adults with disabilities learn and keep a job, accept workplace discipline, and have confidence that they can do complex tasks. Nick says Frost Valley was very important in the development of his independence and his good attitude toward hard work.

Welcome home, Nick!


low toxicity, high drama

At breakfast, I asked the VC of Hemlock why he was wearing thick rubber gloves. He didn't answer in words. Instead he put on the face of a hazmat worker or toxicity lab technician and proceeded to treat a cup of coffee as if it needed testing or else the world would end. I asked my question and got an answer - dramatic, hilariously offbeat, nonsensical, brilliant. That's camp.


Adventure Village hike ("deer stalking")

You would hardly know it from the hilarious AdVill-esque hyperbolic banter, but here Adventure Village prepares to go on a hike to study local flaura and fauna.

Windsong count-off

At camp most villages have a count-off. Some are simple numbering. Some are merely first names. Others become more elaborate. Toward the elaborate end of the scale is this classic Windsong count-off.


a little bit of Hemlock nonsense: "it's just a normal day"

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

theme day: where's Weezy

"Weezy" is Louisa, a junior counselor in Lakota this summer. She's beloved by the Lakota girls. Everywhere I turned today, I saw signs and posters indicating that Weezy's gone missing. "Where's Weezy?" "We want Weezy back!" Etc. There's a faux glumness around Lakota today. No doubt they are building this thing up into a frenzy, and adding clues and hints, treasure-hunt style, as the day goes on. And then Weezy (who is apparently on a day off - my assumption) will re-appear and all will be glee once again in Lakotaland. This is what Dave King years ago called "instant program."


JC with an appetite?

Sara Hyman (who is now a junior counselor in Susky) seems to have a huge appetite for cereal at lunch today?

Oh, no - that's not true. I just happened to pass cabin 50's table when the kids were cleaning up and dumped all the extras into three bowls in front of Sara.


Monday, August 4, 2014

2002 staff shirt on a 2014 staffer

The MAC junior counselor Alex sports a 2002 staff shirt, which he won recently at Challenge Night.


Saturday, August 2, 2014

talking about mainstreaming

Olivia Frioli, VC of STEP, talks with the girls of Lakota village about what great things can happen when we befriend people with intellectual disabilities.


the specialties get more and more specialized!

Yes, here are some photos I took the other day at the Henna Tattoo specialty! Yes. Amazing. Camille (our French international counselor this summer) leads it.



apple trees at the farm - in memoriam


A row of apple trees were planted in memory of Barbara Sacker, mom of Diane and David Sacker and grandma of camper Catharine. Farm campers will be happily munching on sweet little apples for decades to come.

Friday, August 1, 2014

1967 staff shirt

Well, I believe this was the staff shirt from 1967. It could have been '69. But don't you love it? From among my vast FV t-shirt collection, this was my prize. I've been giving away t-shirts at Challenge Night for years and seem never to run out of them. Anyway, Tacoma counselor Nora Harvey won the Tacoma/Lenape/MAC Challenge Night Frost Valley history and trivia challenge the other night, and walked away with the shirt. Here she is, with her camper partner in the challenge (who also won a shirt), posing the next day.



Lenape theme day: commando